Condolence: I did not personally know Mary, but there is a part of me that feels as if I did. I work with her Granddaughter, Julie, and I have heard many, many stories of Mary and the time Julie has had with her. Mary seemed to be a very loving, fun, and respectful person. I know for a fact that her impact on Julie has helped make her who she is today.
This is such a sad time, and I am sorry that you all had to lose her so early. I am not even going to tell you that it will get easier because I am not sure it truly ever does. I do know that with all the memories everyone has of her, she will never be far away.
Don't let this be a time of sadness. Tell stories, laugh without shame, and I guarantee you she will be laughing with you.
I am sorry I will not be there tomorrow night, but my thoughts and well wishes will be.